I myself like the last comment did the same thing. I stayed with my cheater. While with him I was a stay-at-home mom, I got to raise my children, I got a bachelors degree and three classes from a masters degree.
Who knows my son doesn't graduate until June 2010, so I may just get a doctorate degree on him also. But it is over and I will file for divorce on June 15, 2008, just to give myself a nice birthday present.
I still love him, but I refuse to be treated like this anymore, and I am not. I am going to a concert at the end of June with the girls, and as far as I am concerned I am a free woman.
He can have his life over the next year and I will have mine. Our son gets the best of both worlds. He has mommy and daddy, and no arguing because I for one am not talking to him.
Want advise, here it is: Take everything you can out of the marriage now, and when the time comes where you cannot stand to look at him anymore, then take some more and then use him for the advantages that you can, and then when the kids are gone move on.
No one deserves to live thier life feeling the way you are. Be happy with your kids and ignore your husband, they are all idiots anyways.
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Move on anyway!!! by: Anonymous
I totally understand your devastation. My husband was caught cheating when a bill from the hospital showed he had been tested for STD's.
He denied it, stated that it was a mistake. I believed him because I deeply wanted to. Later on I made an appointment with my gyno because I had some problems with itching in the genital area.
I took the bill with me and found out what my problem was. I had an STD and it was obviously from him because he was the only person I had sex with.
When I had the facts in front of me I confronted him. Amazingly he still tried to lie to me.
In a state of fury I told him to get real or get out. He confessed. We went to marraige counseling but he never got really honest.
Eventually the therapist informed my husband that she would no longer provide services to him because he was not getting honest.
That was in 2000. I have stayed in the marraige because I was a stay at home Mom and I have used the time to obtain more counseling (for me!), gone back to school and have a successful career.
Nine years later I think he has been involved with three women and I believe he is currently involved with a fourth woman.
Here is the deal. I have turned this situation into one that works for me. I have taken the time to raise my daughters and take care of myself.
Call his bluff-see him for what he is (a liar) and create a good life for yourself. It will pay off in time. God bless you on your your journey!
