Hi...U have done all the right things...U do need to get down to the bottom of the mess he has caused...
The reason why a spouse cheats is due to lack of attention...They look for it some place else..But ur husband really does love u...
I have searched many websites and encountered many answers from marriage counselors...I can send them to u , for u to read and educate urself also...
The cheating spouse , causes punishment to the faithful spouse, and it's all done unjustifiably...
U need to start communicating and not take each other for granted...Bring back the courtship, romance, affection u both had so strong in the beginning of ur marriage...
Regaine what u both had, but deep down inside each others hearts, still do have....
U can email me directly and i'll send u the websites for u to read... romance42@hotmail.com
Will do my best to help u get through this...The steps to take are very simple...