I went through the exact same scenario. First, tell her she must quit her job and find a new one because it will not stop until she has cut off all communication.
Then, if you both want your marriage to work, go get help from a marriage counselor; the counselor will explain that what she is doing is a form of infidelity though there is no sex involved and that it is very hard on the spouse that is feeling betrayed!
Good Luck.
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Wow - "My wife is texting this dude" by: albert
ok dude this is happeneing to me too. My wife is texting this dude and i caught her. she stopped for a month then started again texting and calling him again.
I told her again and threatened her with divorce...i was close to leaving her. i didnt and gave her a chance and now i feel paranoid. but we have to deal with it until the slip again bad like sleeping with them or even kissing them...texting is bad but not that bad in a sense.
It hurts but its nothing now just let it develop and you will know if she loves you or not. maybe its only texting and that's it, but if its more then kick her to the curb and tell your kids she didnt love you cause thats what it is, no love from her to your feelings.
Thats what im doing, i told her if she slips or i found out she lied to me bout her relationship with this duche bag i will divorce on the spot no matter if we having a good time.
Its hard but hang in there guy. You're not alone.
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Same boat..I know what your going thru.. by: Anonymous
I know what your going thru.I have been married 25yrs.we have had I phone 5mo.I noticed my husband texting didn't think much of it til he woulld spend2 to3 hrs texingwhile we watch tv.went into account liked at data it was se number I approuched when I read how personal he talked to this coworker he was texting ever thing blew Up on his face when I told him that I read his text aske to forgivenut he continue doing it says it's just work related but I read other texts and there not when bring up he just throws phone and says he going to cancel it because I dint trust him any more.but how can I when he continues doing it.
Troubled
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Me too....my husband is doing the samething by: gg
My husband is doing the samething i'm 8 years older than him
I even ask him her or me guess what the 12 times I've said that she's still on the other end of his cell phone.
I wish i had some wise words to share with you it sucks you love someone with all your heart and you cant let go even when you should be true to your self and do what is in your best interest and heart...
GG
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Get Out Now!!! - Don't play the denial game by: Anonymous
Dude, she is SO cheating on you. Don't play the denial game....it is SO obvious. I just got divorced after 13 years of marriage and went through pretty much the same scenario. Yes, you have kids (as I do) and they will grow up with divorced parents and that SUCKS.....but you don't deserve that. Don't take her shit. Tell her you two need counseling ASAP and if she won't do that for your kids and your marriage then get rid of her. Filing for divorce is the hardest thing you could ever do (take it from me), but you can't live your life like that!!!! It's ridiculous. In my opinion, You're TOAST!!!!! Move on and be happy. It's amazing how liberated you will feel once you get rid of all the stress and worry. Good luck!!!
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Stop martyrdom by: Anonymous
If I were you, I could have asked her to leave my sight right from the time she came home without the milk. Your patience is so impressive and the dumbest. You are the man, you shall teach her a lesson.
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same boat by: Anonymous
I am going through the same thing. My husband works with another woman 20 years his junior she is a also a dancer. I found 900 text messages last month He said it was innocent he is just stressed and needs someone to talk to. I told him I was going to get a copy of the messages and he blew up! He said I would misunderstand what they were talking about and it would ruin our marriage. I know what I need to do
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Yep, she's cheating by: Anonymous
I hate to say it, but the secrecy and privacy is cheating. Ask her to let you see some of the texts about work and the stress, so that maybe you can understand her feelings better. If she denies this, then she is cheating.
