CHEATED BEFORE.. WILL HE DO IT NOW THAT WE ARE MARRIED?

IT ALL STARTED JAN O8 ME AND MY BABY HAVE BEEN DATING FOR A YEAR.. AND I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT IN FEB. 08. SO I THOUGHT EVERYTHING WAS GOING GOOD WE HAD TALKED ABOUT GETTING MARRIED AND ALL. WELL ON FEB. 14 2008 HE DROPPED THE BOMB.(ON A TEXT MESSAGE!) HE DIDNT WANT TO SEE ME ANYMORE.( I HAD JUST TOLD HIM I WAS PREGNANT FEB 2.) OH FORGOT TO SAY HE IS 42 AND I WAS 27. ANYWAYS HE BROKE UP WITH ME ON VALENTINES DAY . THE VERY NEXT WEEK MOVES IN WITH HIS EX AND THE MARRIAGE LICENSE IS IN THE PAPER FOR THE TWO.. I WAS CRUSHED. FIRST I COULDNT UNDERSTAND WHY HE BROKE MY HEART AND NOW HE IS MARRYING SOMEONE ELSE... ( ALSO WE WORKED TOGETHER) SO I HAD TO SEE HIM EVERYDAY... IT WAS HORRIBLE .. WELL ONE MONTH GOES BY I GET BETTER.. MY NERVES FINNALLY CALM DOWN A LITTLE. I ABOUT LOST MY BABY. WAS VERY TOUCHY FOR A WHILE.. THEN I GET THAT PHONE CALL.. THE BABY I MISS YOU.. IM SORRY.. SHE IS NOT WHAT I WANT AND IM LEAVING.. WELL WHAT WAS I SUPPOSE TO DO.. YOU GUESSED IT AFTER A LONG, LONG TALK. WE WERE TOGETHER AGAIN. THINGS WERE GOING GREAT.. SO I THOUGHT . SO ITS AUG. I HAVE TO TAKE OFF WORK BECAUSE OF PREGNANCY ISSUSES. ANYWAYS LET ME GET TO THE POINT.. I WAS THINKING HE WAS CHEATING FOR A WHILE.. HE LIVED WITH HIS DAUGHTER (WHICH WAS MY BEST FRIEND) HE STARTED COMING OVER LATE, LEAVING HIS PHONE IN THE CAR, BRINGING HIS DAUGHTERS CAR INSTEAD OF HIS AT TIMES. OK SO YEA ALL THE SIGNS WHERE THERE BUT I WAS SO SO BLIND.. WE LIVE IN A VERY SMALL TOWN SO I THOUGHT IF HE WAS DOING SOMETHING I WOULD HEAR ABOUT.. WRONG.. BUT I LOVED HIM AND THOUGHT HE DID LOVE ME TO..OK SO I HAVE OUR SON ON SEPT 26 08 AND HE WASNT ANYWHERE TO BE FOUND.. HE WAS AT HIS HOUSE WHEN THE BABY WAS BORN I WAS ALL ALONE .. OK SO GET HOME AND HEAL ( HAD A C SECTION) SO TOOK A WHILE. AFTER BEING HOME HE STARTED ACTING REALLY STRANGE DIDNT TALK TO ME OR SEE THE BABY UNTIL HE WAS 2WKS OLD.. THIS WHOLE TIME HE WAS TELLING ME HE LOVES ME AND WE WERE GETTING MARRIED .. BUT IM NOT THAT STUPID.. I KNEW SOMETHING WAS GOING ON.. HE ALWAYS HAD TO GO WHEN I CALLED. GRANTED HE WAS WORKING AT NIGHT. DIDNT THINK MUCH OF THAT. THOUGHT HE WAS BUSY.. BUT HE WOULD NEVER CALL ME BACK WHEN HE SAID. HE STARTED CALLING ME AND ASKING ME WHERE I WAS AND WHAT I WAS DOING AT WEIRD TIMES OF THE DAY.. WHEN IM HOME WITH A NEWBORN WHERE WOULD I GO .. OK WELL I WAS UP LATE ONE NIGHT AND DECIDED TO CHECK HIS EMAIL AND THERE IT WAS THE PROOF I NEEDED TO CONFIRM MY GUT FEELING. WELL ALMOST.. THE EMAIL WASNT TO THE POINT. SO I DID SOME MORE DIGGING... TALKED TO HIS DAUGHTER ( WHICH WAS MY BEST FRIEND AND HE WAS LIVING WITH HER AT THE TIME..) ABOUT ALL THE STUFF I WAS CONCERNED ABOUT. BUT SHE SAID NOTHING AND I TRUSTED HER TO TELL ME IF SHE KNEW ANYTHING SO I BRUSHED IT OFF YET AGAIN.. WHEN I ASKED HIM BOUT ANYTHING HE WOULD JUST BLOW UP AND GET MAD OVER A SIMPLE MESSAGE.. (ANOTHER SIGN) OK SO I GO BACK TO WORK AND WASNT THERE 3 HRS AND WHAT DO I FIND OUT MY BOYFRIEND (FATHER OF MY SON)WAS CHEATING WITH A WOMAN THAT WORKED ACROSS THE STREET FROM ME... I WAS SOO PISSED, AND RELIEVED AT THE SAME TIME.. I WASNT CRAZY!!!! OK SO I WENT AND CALMLY ASKED HER BOUT IT .. SHE KNEW NOTHING OF ME AND SAID HE TOLD HER AND EVERYONE ELSE THE BABY WASNT HIS.. SO WHY THE HELL WAS HE STILL TELLING ME HE LOVED ME AND SEEING ME .. THE WORST PART WAS MY BESTFRIEND KNEW THE WHOLE TIME AND DIDNT TELL ME. THAT HURT THE MOST.. COULD HAVE SAVED ME ALOT OF SLEEPLESS NIGHTS. SO ANYWAYS I CONFRONT HIM. AND WELL I HAVE A BAD TEMPER.. HE SAW THAT SIDE THAT DAY.. OF COURSE HE DIDNT TAKE RESPONIBLITY FOR IT..I SAID MY PEACE AND I WAS DONE.. SENT HIM A FEW NASTY EMAILS.. CHANGED MY NUMBER AND WAS MOVING ON WITH MY LIFE WITH MY PRECIOUS BABY BOY.(ALSO HAVE 8 YEAR OLD BOY) SO 2 MONTHS GO BY GETTING BETTER EVERY DAY HE REALLY CRUSHED ME. IT HAD BEEN GOING ON THE WHOLE TIME I WAS PREGNANT.SHE WASNT THE ONLY ONE.. HE BROKE MY HEART INTO PIECES.. I HAVE NEVER FELT SO EMPTY .. THE STRESS OF A NEW BABY AND NOW THIS .. BUT THEN THE PHONE CALL.. THE I MISS YOU, I MADE A MISTAKE , I DONT WANT HER I WAS JUST SCARED CALL(MID LIFE CRISIS) I HUNG UP ON HIM.. I WAS JUST GETTING BETTER AND HE HAD THE NERVE TO SAY THAT... WELL DAYS WENT ON PHONE CALLS KEPT COMING HE WOULD STOP BY TO SEE THE BABY.(NOW HE SAYS ITS HIS) HE COULDNT DENY HIM IN THE FIRST PLACE LOOKED JUST LIKE HIM.. AND THERE WASNT ANYONE ELSE... (NOT THAT KIND OF GIRL) ANYWAYS SO OK HE WORE ME DOWN.. HE EXPLAINED AGAIN AND AGAIN AND I LOVE HIM SO I DECIDED TO GIVE HIM ANOTHER CHANCE.. SO WE GOT MARRIED FEB 14 2009.. I KNOW IT SOUNDS CRAZY AND MAYBE I AM.. BUT I PUT THE PAST BEHIND ME AND MOVED ON.. NOW THE PAST IS HAUNTING ME .. I HAVE NOTICED CERTAIN THINGS THAT HE IS DOING THAT HAPPENED BEFORE.. AND I GO BACK TO ALL THOSE HORRIBLE THINGS HE DID TO ME WHEN I NEEDED HIM MOST.. RIGHT NOW HAVE NO PROOF. BUT ITS ALWAYS IN THE BACK OF MY MIND .. HE IS HOME WHEN HE IS NOT AT WORK AND I HAVE CONTROL OVER ALL THE MONEY, PHONE BILLS ETC. SO IT DOESNT GIVE HIM MUCH ROOM TO CHEAT.. BUT IN MY PAST WITH HIM HE DOESNT NEED BUT A FEW.. SO AFTER THAT WHOLE LONG STORY MY QUESTION IS WILL HE CHEAT AGAIN.. OR DO MEN ACTUALLY HAVE THAT MID LIFE CRISIS WHEN THERE IS A PERIOD OF TIME WHERE THEY DONT KNOW WHERE THEY FIT OR WHAT THEY WANT.. TO ONE DAY WAKE UP AND SEE WHAT THAT HAD WAS WHAT THEY WANTED ALL ALONG..OR DID HE JUST FILL ME FULL OF HOPE JUST TO DO IT AGAIN...?

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Cheated before.. will he do it again. - "if he is a capricorn..he will definitely stray and cheat"
by: Anonymous

You might think I am crazy, but if he is a capricorn, and he sounds like one.... he will definitely stray and cheat. They are users.

Some is familiar - "I would say yes if given opportunity they all cheat"
by: Anonymous

A similar thing happened to me. except I didn't know the guy was married just he went out of town a lot on business trips.

I met him through my parents they thought he was a wonderful man. Anyway.. at the time He kept saying we were getting married next week, in two weeks etc and I was in a panic.

We lived together at the time and he was there for the birth and took care of his son. We talked of getting another house so one day he asked me to take the baby go to my sisters while he painted.

He came everyday and said he was almost finished. One day he didn't show up when I called the number had been disconnected.

I talked to a friend 6 months later that said she had talked to him for me to get packed he had made a terrible mistake he was coming home.

I still didn't know he was married. I packed and stayed packed for years. Raised my child alone. 2

25 yrs later I get an email saying it was hard to sum up over 20 yrs in 15 minutes but had his word and honor as a man he would tell me what happened.

I found he had lost his job and took the easy way out. And found out he was married. It was HORRIBLE!!! I am Baptist and life has been hard.

I told him settle his problems then contact me I wanted no part of it. And he did. He begged pleaded to marry him that I could trust him.

It took 5 yrs of his begging I wasn't going to do it but our son wanted me to marry his father. I did and there have been three episodes since.

Before I married he had a girl spend the night which I didn't know. He bought a girl at work gifts. And the last had phone sex with Peggy of venice beach florida. That was a bad one.

He has since said he would never do it again. I dont trust him. He has two daughters which went against their own mother kept secrets etc.

One tries with her brother the other hates him, that one Celeste did the same thing only she knew the man was married and still is and had a baby by him.

Imagine that...yet she hates her brother. She will find out how it feels. I don't have much respect for them.

Not even the mother she knew about me and about our son yet wouldn't allow his name to be mentioned so she's to blame too. But I'm civil.

If I had known I would have run so far the other way from him. He ruined my life. I'm trying for our son but I will never trust him or any of them for that matter.

So I would say yes if given opportunity they all cheat.

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