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Like most men...He has to have a woman
Rick H from WI is a person I didn't think would have cheat to talk with him and his haha values.
But I ...
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How Long Does a Broken Heart Last? I am a college senior who has been in a relationship with the same girl for the last 3 years. I am totally in love ...
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I am trying soooo hard not to explode! Because I pay the cell phone bill in my household and am aware that my husband doesn't talk very long at all on ...
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I found out my mother in law has been cheatting on her husband, how do i confront this situation and make it stop, plz help, there's three familys at stake....
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My Cheating Boyfriend!
Why do men cheat on women that LOVE them, do everything for them, has a kid with them..
I have been with my boyfriend going ...
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Hubby of 10 years all of a sudden texting ALL of the time. This is a man whom hates phones! Checked text log a month ago. There were like 200 old texts....
Too many lies





I've been married for 17 years. Atleast 15 have been unhappy. My husband has told so many lies and his excuse was " I don't know why I said that it was ...
Is Flirting Cheating?





So is flirting cheating ? I came a across I very interesting comment on a forum where a visitor was asked this very same question. That response was:...
Is he cheating while working out of town?





My husband works out of town during the week, with 4 other guys he is the only married one (the rest just have live in girl friends). They like to go to ...
BUNNYFOO





I FOUND OUT LAST WEEK THAT MY HUSBAND, THE FATHER OF MY 2 BEAUTIFUL LITTLE GIRLS HAS BEEN HAVING AN AFFAIR WITH A NURSE HE WORKS WITH FOR 2 MONTHS!
SHE ...
CELL PHONES ARE THE KEY TO CATCH A CHEATING MAN!!





I AM 41 YEARS OLD, A SINGLE MOTHER, AND HAVE BEEN CHEATED ON MY WHOLE LIFE. I FEEL I AM A VERY ATTRACTIVE WOMEN WITH A LOT TO OFFER, BUT IT ALWAYS SEEMS ...
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I broke into my husband's email account because I had suspected that something was not right.
I found that he had been sending and receiving emails ...
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Hello, found this sight as a pissed off ex. I feel lucky on this site.
My ex didn't have sex with anyone else but I feel what he did was terrible. He ...
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I have been with my husband for over 20 years on and off. We have officially been married for four.
He has had numerous affairs and I have caught him ...
berry123





My husband cheated on me and had sex with another girl. But he accepted himself and apologized for it.
He also said would never do such a mistake again ...
Is she cheating? I need her texting details!





Ok... Here is a long story and I think the answers are right in front of me!
I've been married for 14 years. My wife is 7 years younger than me and ...
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Why my wife left us for another man?
Hi..
My story below and hope you can advise me..
This's very first time doing this and i've been searching ...
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My husband cheated on me 3 mos. into a diagnosis of early stage spinal cancer. My health was going downhill fast, and he had begun withdrawing even more ...
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I found out over four months ago now that my wife was having an affair on me/had an affair on me.
She claims she ended seeing him two months prior ...
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I've been with my fiance for a total of 5 years now and have been happily (or so i thought) engaged for 1 year.
About 3 weeks ago she made a new friend ...
Just Tying to Uderstand....





My husband had adult dating profiles for about 6 months that I know of! When I found the first one he deleted it and said he was looking for erotic stories!...
Not sure if my Boyfriend is cheating? I need help!





Ok well my boyfriends birthday was last week and we decided to go see one of his best friends named michael and he has a sister named Sara.
Well when ...
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I have this major gut feeling that my fiance is not being faithful to me.
He works on a Cruise ship and is usually away for 8months a year. For the ...
Wifes "FRIEND" and her text provacative messages.....





My wife of 3 years has a "friend" that she used to do everything with before we were married. She told me there was never any "attraction" from her to ...
I am the Cheater





I am the Cheater
I met my boyfriend when I was 18(he was 28) and had our baby at 19.I could not have been more happy with my life,everything was going ...
How do you stop the cheating from happening





I am a wife of a cop in a small town. I never thought of my husband cheating until a friend of mine was going through a rough time because her husband ...
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My wife and I have been married for 14 years. 6 months ago, she told me she was unhappy with the way things were going.
She had started a new job 4 ...
Concerned..how to I get his hotmail account password





I think my husband of 3 years may be having an affair, especially since I cannot read his email. I seek advice on how to get his facebook or hotmail account ...
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Okay I have been with this man for 10 yrs now we have 3 boys together.I
In the summer I signed the two oldest boys up for soccer,one day after soccer ...
I think he is cheating but i dont know...





Well it all started when me and my boyfriend got together about a month ago...and well he had only just broken up with his ex after a 8 months relationship....
Did my wife visit her ex-boyfriend?





Please read the following true story and kindly give your opinion at the end.
I’m a British man working and living in the Middle East with my family....
Is he cheating





Hi all, I am going to make this short because I can go on and on forever and I don't want to bore you all.
DH and I have been married 13 years we have ...
Boyfriend possibly cheating but unsure





Well lets see here. My bf and I have been dating for almost a year now. we've known each other for 14 years.
I have 2 children from another relationship ...
Hes cheating with a co-worker traffic cop(51 Division)





I found his cell phone bill and he was talking to a female cop from works every single day for a minimum of 60 minutes.
He swears they are just friends ...
nervous





My boyfriend has told me several times just how against cheating he is. Today, I picked up his cell phone to check the time and noticed he had a text message....
NEEDING SUPPORT





My husband and I have been married for 10 yrs, and we have two boys. One day I had his cell phone and a woman called.
She seemed very surprised that ...
Considering Suicide





He is a stand up comedian and I am a personal trainer. our schedules are heavy and I was working as much as possible because my son's father ( my son was ...
feelikesucker





Well, it started with her being distant,unaffectionate,
argumentative. Our sex life fell off the face of the earth. We went from oral sex and intercourse ...
I Fear That He May Be Cheating





Well, how do I begin? I guess the different attitude started about 3 months ago. I just put it off to new job and new stress.
But then I began to see ...
How Can I Find Out Who’s Calling My Husband?





How Can I Find Out Who’s Calling My Husband?
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Tell tales signs





One important thing to remember is that anytime a spouse begins acting differently then you better look into it.
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Is he cheating?





Is He Cheating?
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My Husband Cheated





My husband cheated in the past. It seems like I am always cautious watching. Let me explain he has done it to the point of almost ruining his career.
We ...
Not my wife....right?





A little back story:
We've been married over 22 years and lived together more than two years before that. In total we've been together 25 years. When ...
Did my digging and found out he was cheating





Ok. When I met my boyfriend I learned he lied about being divorced and having one kid with his x wife. He didn't see his kid and I got him to start seeing ...
cheating?





I am curious if my husband is cheating because I was looking through his phone and seen where he deleted all his text messages.
And he is a little ...
Looking for advice...





I have been married for 4 years now. I've been having this terrible feeling for some time now that my husband is having an affair. I don't have any real ...
My Cheating Wife





My wife, (******* ****** *****, a.k.a "G"), cheated on me before and after our wedding in September 2008 with a guy she met at poker in Queanbeyan, M ...
Is she cheating?





Hello
My wife and I have been married for 10 years and I thought everything was very good between us. Ok we sometimes had disagreements over tidying ...
Is Kissing Cheating?





So is kissing cheating? On a night out on the town with her girls, your woman kisses a total stranger after a few too much to drink.
Is that acceptable ...
What to believe?




I work out of town 3-4 days a week and my wife started a new job almost a year ago. She was trained by one of her managers and they became friends.
For ...
Is a Hand Job Considered Cheating?



Is a hand job considered cheating? My boyfriend and I have been together for more than two years now. We both spoke about our commitment to each other ...
Curious woman



I have been married for 7 months. After our 6 months of conflict-free marraige my husband thanked me for a peaceful six months together.
About a week ...
Take It From Women Who Has Cheated..We Know!



Great site, we were just reading through signs she's cheating and as women who have cheated, we wanted to add that maybe too much emphasis is placed on ...
Tell me what would you think is going on..?


I've been with my boyfriend for 1 1/2 years now. When we got together, we were together every minute that he wasn't working and we communicated well, It ...
I think my partner of 2 years is cheating, but cant find any solid evidence....


About september last year after i had come home from hospital (after loosing our baby) i found heaps of text messages on his mobile phone to and from dating ...
Cheating boyfriend on facebook


I found out my boyfriend was cheating on me by reading his facebook account. He had messages from one girl in particular saying she couldnt wait to get ...
Signs of an idiot?
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Signs of an Idiot?
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CHEATED WITH A FAT WHORE
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"CHEATED WITH A FAT WHORE"
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I'm not married. im only 16, but I seriously think my mom is cheating on my dad. My parents have been married for 23 years.
Lately my mom has been ...
She doesnt really pay much attention to me much anymore - Advice please
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I have been with my partner for about 4 years now. I am 28 and she is 39, sex seems to have gone down a bit lately and she says its because she is tired....
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Just got the urge to cheat on my spouse after 10 years of marriage. My first time but I'm intrigued by the other guy. What should I do?
Do you think my husband is planning to cheat on me?
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Do you think my husband is planning to cheat on me?
Me and my husband were married for a year now. a couple of days ago we were having a nice conversation ...
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I'm the cheater, and i can't stop, it's like an addiction.
I am married for several years now to a very nice man and we have a child together.
I ...
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Suck it up and get on with your life. Of course you feel sorry for yourself, and you feel rightously offended.
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Im breaking.
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I may only be 18 but i definitely feel like i could write the book on love.
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I had that feeling....
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My wife works in a hospital as a Secretary ...
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What Causes Married Women to Cheat?
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So just what causes married women to cheat on their husbands? I have visited many forums today in regards to this topic and it was quite interesting to ...
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Do you think I should take me having a dream about my boyfriend hugged up with one his female friends?
I never really trusted her to much for someone ...
HELP!
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Do you think I should take me having a dream about my boyfriend hugged up with one his female friends?
I never really trusted her to much for someone ...
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I am married for eleven years..My husband was not with us for eight years,we got together last 2006 same year when I found out that my husband was having ...
Cheated and need advice...
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I've been with a girl for about 3 months now. Due to her past experiences she claimed she had difficulty showing affection, which I was willing to be ...
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"My Wife Left Me For Her Ex.......Where Do I Go From Here?"
My wife recently left me under the pretense of going to visit and stay with her mother ...
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Have You Ever Cheated on Your Spouse? How Did It Start?
I think if we could hear from others that have cheated, then maybe it could help others that ...
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I suspect my husband is cheating on me. We have been married for 8 years now, and things slowly started to change with it coming to the point where we ...
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My wife has had breast cancer, A friend (Sue) of ours husband had cancer also and has passed away, he was like a brother to me,that I never had.
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No Sex and Emotionally Disconnected!!!
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My husband and I have been married for 1 yr and 6 months. lately before and after some dui issues, he's been distant.
He doens't kiss mee like he use ...
What I wrote about....this is how he feels about me what do I do?
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He shouldn’t be here but he knows if he goes ...
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Well i went to a birthday party with a couple of my good friends and the birthday boy, well we can call him "John".
He Just turned 25 and I've known ...
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I found a phone history of my husband texting his old coworker. The texting happened usually late at night. I confronted him and he said they were only ...
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Friday ...
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I suspect my gf of cheating with a particular guy. Last night she went to a bar with friends and I stayed home.
After a few hours had passed (about ...
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I am male 60 yrs ,wife 56 yrs.We married in 1970.It was arranged marriage of our liking. We had first issue in 1972.& then an abortion in 72 end. In1975 ...
But I didn't act on anything......
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I don't know what to do i feel sad mad hurt
i wanna be strong and shrug it off because i figure my husband is doing this to make me jealous but i cant ...
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my fault?
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I cheated....
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Chat Room Cheating
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My beautiful partner of 3 years, im divorced, he is single, frequented chat sites on a sexual level etc last year and whilst i believed it to be cheating,...
CHEATED BEFORE.. WILL HE DO IT NOW THAT WE ARE MARRIED?
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Confused Wife in SC
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I have caught my husband having 2 inappropriate "friendships". One with a married mutual friend and one with a stranger.
The last one is still somewhat ...
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I want opinions on whether you think this is an affair or not. Husband has mentored a younger, single female at work for the past 6 years.
In the ...
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Husband Father dream guy......
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I don't know where to start. I'm in the military (US Navy) and a 6 year old daughter. My family is from another country and just recently came to the ...
Is he cheating?
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I have ask him if he is cheating on me and he says no. He works all the time 10 to 15 hours a day he gets paid for all the hours he works.
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Candi
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My husband portrays a very professional image, yet he is leading a double life. I married a caring, heartfelt, sincere, loving, honest man, but the man ...
PHONES tell a Story...
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Found Massage Oil in her nightstand - Is she cheating? Teke27
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I found sexy lingerie and flavored massage oils in my wifes nightstand in the bedroom. Both items had been used, just not with me. When I questioned ...
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I cheated a long time ago and many, but now I am faithful. those feelings are coming back, if only for a moment to escape for 15 mins and come back renewed....
Do You Believe In Karma?
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Do You Believe In Karma?
I cheated on my husband several times and I don't think I feel as bad as I should.
I think and think about it and I always ...
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I recently came across phone records showing my wife making regular phone calls, 2 to 4 per day during her working hours with some one she used to go to ...
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My wife went on a Hawaiian cruise with her 3 sisters. She has been gone for over a week and I have only heard from her once in an email.
In the email ...
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Foremost,
If you wouldn't mind taking the time to read my email, I would be grateful.
Firstly, I am a man and I am also the extramarital lover ...
Why? How? Where? When?
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We have been together 2 years. Things have always been great I have never suspected he would ever cheat. About 4 months ago we had a miscarriage. Since ...
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This past several months now she has been comming home with bruises on the ...
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My husband and I have been together for 4 years, married for 3 of those years. He has 2 children with his ex. We have custody.
She has had an on and ...
Not So Sure
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Ok Well,
I'm going to try.
Day after Christmas, I come home, husband putting away some groceries he purchased and proceeds upstairs to the shower....
Stubbled across
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I went out of town with my two 9 year olds to visit family.
I came back and discovered 3 used condoms & wrappers in my husbands garbage can, granted ...
I think my husband is cheating
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I Just Don't Know..If She Is Cheating
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In Short
18 months ago my wife changes from a women who was not at all into the bar scene, she liked friends over and entertaining at home and other ...
Worried, Concerned, and Confused about what's going on?
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Well my story is out of the "normal", I am a 31 year old man and unlike most other posters on the site, my situation doesn't involve a woman, yet it involves ...
A Sign He Is Up To No Good....
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My boyfriend of 2 years has been very critical of me lately. I can't do anything right. He even told me he thought the time I spent paying bills was taking ...
Everybody Makes Mistakes
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Anyone can cheat and dont make it look obvious. I am a cheater and i try everyday to maintian to be faithful to the man that loves me, and I cheated and ...
Movie tickets in my husband's pants pocket when he left OKC to go to WV to a football game. He said that he just happened to pick them up. What is up with this story?
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I have always trusted my husband until he went back to W V to a football game and returned home with movie stubs in his pants pockets.
He denies going ...
Too Naive?
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I read a text message on my husband's cell phone that at first was "business" then asking about meeting for lunch and then got raunchy. The sender gave ...
Paranoid or Reasonable Doubt?
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This isn't a long story, nor is it very dramatic or exciting. I'm a 20 year old male from the Northwest who is worried about his current relationship.
I'...
• He doesn't invite you around his friends, company events, and other social activities. Is he cheating at work? It can be worse than a nightclub. There will probably be less of a chance that he is cheating at a night club.
• You get that gut feeling that tells you he's cheating on you. Things just aren't adding up. You all of sudden feel the need to go through his belongings almost expecting to find something.
• Unusual mood swings. These are one of many signs of cheating men that is caused by the internal conflict and struggle that you man is going through during his time of infidelity.
• When you question your man he gets very defensive. He might even get mad at you to throw you off. He is hoping that you will put your thoughts of infidelity to rest if you are afraid to ask about it.
• You are feeling that dis-connected feeling within your relationship. Remember that see-saw back in the school yard. When one side went up, you know where the other side was. This is usually the same when your mate is having an affair. Many times there is a deeper problem in the relationship that would need to be fixed anyhow if you are to truly be happy. Although you are not to blame for someone stepping out on a relationship, infidelity is usually a symptom of a deeper problem.
• You discover e-mail accounts that you didn’t know existed. He will refuse to give you access to his email account. He's not stupid! Is he?