Checked His Facebook - It turns out that it was from a girl and she was clearly flirting with him.

by CONCERNED In MN
(MN)

I am actually writing to you, because I don't really get the whole forum deal. I would rather just ask a question and get an email response. If you would like to add my question (without my info of course) that would be fine.


I just really need an opinion from an outside source and since you have this forum I figure maybe you know some stuff.

I have been dating my boyfriend for 4 years now. We always have had the agreement that the past is the past and we don't really need to talk about it. He doesn't know much about my ex's and I don't know much about his. I have access to all of his accounts, except one. Which has never bothered me, until recently. He could have access to all of my accounts, but has never requested that and there has never been a reason for me to offer that.

We do not have internet access at home and so when we need the internet we either use it at his shop or at my parents. Usually I bring my laptop up and use that. However, last Sunday I forgot my laptop and had to use his computer. He was not present at the time. When I pulled up facebook it automatically pulls up his account. I noticed that he had a message and I checked it, not thinking anything of it. It turns out that it was from a girl and she was clearly flirting with him.

He wasn't flirting with her, but he also was not stopping her from doing it. This conversation had been going on for a year and there were no other messages in his account. I am not a jealous lady and I'm not usually snoopy. However, after seeing this I found out that this girl is his ex girlfriend.

Apparently she was a high school love. She contacts him frequently and I'm not sure why, but it really bothers me. I can not tell him, because I really shouldn't have been in his account in the first place. I did ask him if he flirts with other girls via internet or otherwise and he said no.

I did tell him that I logged him out of his account so that I could get into mine and that he would have to log back in. This is also the one account of his that I am not on. This all happened Sunday and Monday he changed the password.

I know that he loves me and we are planning on getting married in 3 years and having kids and he talks about the future all the time, but it just really bothers me.

What do you think that I should do?

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by: Anonymous

I always thought Facebook is a dangerous tool, especially if its abused. But not letting him know what you found out, you may just want to ask him other things like, "Why is the Facebook acct. so private?" or "Do you keep in touch with people I don't know on Facebook?" This is not accusing, but hopefully he will be honest and tell you he keeps in touch with certain people.

Respect
by: Anonymous

I would suggest that you confront him and tell what you did and it was not your intention to get in his account. Ask him if he could tell his ex not to flirt him and that it hurts your feeling And that you still trust him enough for him to continue using Facebook. You would appreciate his respect for you.

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