feelikesucker

by tony
(oak creek wi, usa)

Me and Her son

Me and Her son

Well, it started with her being distant,unaffectionate,

argumentative. Our sex life fell off the face of the earth. We went from oral sex and intercourse to like nothing during this time.
She had a myspace page and was chatting with a guy she knew from high school that was on the 21 of august i know because thats when she got the friend request and accepted it. But from mondays through thursday she attends this class from 530 to 830. There was a guy named terry that attended with her, today i intercepted an email from her teacher and he asked her how she was doing,and i quote, hows your living arrangements,Terry and all that stuff? i just want you to be happy. please tell terry i said hi. end quote. i just got this today!!! the other night she got all dolled up to go to her class and brought a blanket with her. and she missed a bunch of classes because shes got to make up any she misses! the myspace was just a distraction
from the real issue. it was terry all along. its September 16 and we finally had sex and i noticed big time that well she was loose i mean it looked like she got rammed by a horse! i gave her oral and it looked like a hole when normally its together! i feel totally stupid for examining her but fuck, it was like night and day!!! right now im thinking of leaving but i love her
to much its gonna hurt like hell to leave and i keep pretending that she didnt do anything. but i know in my heart and gut that she did. she wont admit anything happened and now she wants to have a baby and get married all of a sudden, my mind is totally fucked up so to whom it may concern, wtf do i do now?

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Feel your pain
by: Anonymous

I really do feel for you. I think she is cheating from the email alone.

The thing that you can never tell from is the size of the hole in her vagina.

A woman's body especially the vagina area changes, regardless of having or not having sex. When a woman ovulates, the vaginal hole tends to loosen up. When a woman is excited, the hole loosens up and looks bigger. This is definately not a way to tell if she is cheating.

On the other hand, taking a blanket to class, the email and the other little things that she has done, tells me she is cheating.

I know it is hard when you are attached to a child that doesn't belong to you, but you really need to leave her now, rather than wait. The child will get over it, they are resilient, and bounce back fairly quickly, but your feelings are the ones that need to be dealt with in that situation.

don't know what comes next
by: Anonymous

I am the 20 yrs married guy... i wish i could say all is well but, i am still shaken by what i do not know. That is to say that i want 2 believe her but my trust is gone.... she leaves the house and i can't help but think she is lying to me and going off to meet him....i want to believe that i am wrong but when she says she'll be home in 30 min and shows up 3 hrs later i can't help thinking she's seeing him...
she says she loves me and i want to provide what is missing but iam unsure what that is....she sleeps well and i am in hell... is it just me? am i exagerating everything and making things worse? or am i just another fool who is blinded by the power of the P**** [edited] and unable to see the truth? thru all of this i love her and want to be with her....i truly believe that she is the love of my life and i can't imagine it without her....if she choooses another...well..you can imagine the pain...i will try to keep u informed of where we end up and for those in similar situations;;; keep the faith and know that u r not alone... there may be light ahead,,, only God knows for sure... love to all those who are in pain tonight, the tears i shed are for all of us.............

Similar situation yet different
by: Anonymous

My wife of 20 yrs has cut my heart out by texting, calling and meeting another guy. I got tired of all the cell phone messages that she gets and one night checked her phone. Wow, I was stunned. The guy saying he wanted to have sex and her responding that they should meet the next day....I lost it and confronted her, she denied anything ever happened and she would never do anything to hurt me, etc, etc....I went up to bed, but couldn't sleep. Came back down, she was asleep on the couch. I checked her phone again, to see if maybe she was right and i had just misinterpreted something...and I found that after I had gone to bed she had texted him...think about you every night and we should get together tomorrow....
after a couple more days of me getting no sleep and several conversations, she says it was just an infatuation and nothing ever happened....man I want to believe it but my trust has been shattered. I think it will be awhile until I can recover....I waver between feeling like a sucker and being ok, but can't help wondering what's next

BE STRONG AND OF GOOD COURAGE!
by: Anonymous

Dear "feels like a sucker."

Oh God! How I know your pain!! I have been there and am trying (like you) to heal myself.

I am up ... I am down.
I forgive for 6 hours ... only to be mad as hell for 3 ... then starving for my partner ...

No one knows what this is like until you have actually gone thru it. IT IS ABSOLUTE HELL!

I am a very strong person. But this has brought me to my knees. Simply because for so many years I honestly thought my partner could never do anything like this. I WAS TOTALLY FLOORED AND SHATTERED AT THE SAME TIME! Everything from that point seemed like a lie. Even the good times.

But I am a Christian and I believe in grace.
But I also believe you are no to be anyone's fucking fool either! Sure, God wants us to Love others', but we must also Love ourselves!

IF YOU WANT HOPE WITH THIS WOMAN ... this is what I know for sure.

You must open the door of communication and demand honesty. Start gently. Try to put yourself in her position as much as you can. Be willing to hear her side. But also let her know how you feel as well. Do not let yourself fly into rage, but be honest. Don't hold back.

Without communication and ABSOLUTE honesty ... there is no relationship. There is only a void.

DEMAND TRUTH. PRAY. CRY AND (AS WEIRD AS THIS MIGHT SOUND) TRY TO LAUGH AS MUCH AS YOU CAN.
JOY ALWAYS MAKES THE HEART STRONGER. (EVEN IF IT IS ONLY FOR A LITTLE BIT AT FIRST.)

Remember that most people have affairs because they are panicking that something is missing in their life. They are reaching out to another to try and gain something more within themselves. These kind of people are usually very numb and do not realize just how much their actions might hurt others' so they are caught up in their own selfishness. Sometimes affairs are the response to having experienced some sort of loss or pain.

Some times people reach out to others ... to keep what they think as the home *SAFE* from their more *dirty* fantasies and have no intention of leaving, even though they are fully in the act of betrayal and extreme selfishness.


IF YOU WANT TO STAY ... KNOW THAT YOU STILL CAN. BUT DEMAND ABSOLUTE TRUTH!! AND FULL ACCESS TO YOUR GFs LIFE. THAT MEANS ALL INTERNET, PHONE RECORDS, ECT. THERE CAN NO BE REBUILDING OF TRUST WITHOUT FULL ACCESS. (BELIEVE ME ON THIS!) IF SHE REFUSES. BE HER FRIEND AND YOURS ... AND LEAVE! YOU WILL BE BETTER OFF. TRUST ME.

BE STRONG AND OF GOOD COURAGE... (AND THIS TOO SHALL PASS ... AS TIME ALWAYS HEALS ALL.)

GOOD LUCK AND GOD SPEED MY BROTHER...
YOU ARE IN MY HEART AND IN MY PRAYERS!

Christian

PS: Don't forget ... DEMAND TRUTH!

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