I Caught My Wife Cheating After 11 Years of Marriage – Now What?

I caught my wife cheating on me after 11 years of marriage. I know over the years the passion in our marriage has not been there, but I would have never thought she would do this to me.

I came home early one day from work and saw the computer on in our study. It is always off when my wife is not using it. I found it strange so I went in and started browsing around. I almost didn’t notice it, but one of the tabs at the bottom of the screen was an email tab.

To my surprise, when I clicked on it, it took me to her inbox. I don’t know what made me do it, but I started going through the different folders and in her sent box is where I discovered that she had been cheating on me.

It makes me nauseous to think of what took place, but to make a long story short, she has been seeing someone from her job for quite a while now. I caught my wife cheating by accident, but it was as if I was supposed to do everything that I did that day.

Reading some of my wife’s words to this man makes me want to jump off a cliff. I feel so weak as a man and don’t know what to do. I confronted my wife and we went through the whole ordeal in which she initially tried to lie, then tried to soften the blow, only to finally come clean about the situation.

She has insisted on her mom’s life, that the affair is over and that she told this man that she had to end it and wanted nothing else to do with him. I have my doubts because they still work together. She has been trying everything in her power to make it easier for me to trust her but I just don’t know…

I don’t know where we are now, we are still together trying to work through it but I feel numb right now in our relationship.

My faith tells me that I caught my wife cheating for a reason, but my brain just can’t figure it out.

Please I need to hear from anyone that may have gone through something similar or is going through something like this.