I Cheated on My Girlfriend – Should I Tell Her?

by Really Confused Boyfriend
(Cali)

I cheated on my girlfriend recently and need some advice. I was traveling on a business trip to a city where my ex-girlfriend lived. I have been together with my girlfriend for 6 years now.

We talk about getting married but have been sort of just stuck in the same level for some time now when it comes to our relationship.

Should I tell her, or just forget about it?

I am absolutely torn about what to do. I cheated on my girlfriend and have been thinking it through over the last few days trying to get a clear answer of what I should do.

So far I have come up with the below:

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Pros in Telling Her I Cheated

I will feel better about myself, at least I owned up to my actions

My conscience would be clear

I could sleep easily a night

Cons in Telling Her I Cheated

We will probably break up.

If we stay together, she may never trust me again.

She will be absolutely devastated.

Even if she breaks up with me, I could potentially damage her for all her future relationships.

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So far that is what I have come up with. I cheated on my girlfriend and I had no idea it would be this heavy on my conscience.

I know my action was clearly WRONG and I know if you could get past this time I would NEVER do it again!!

The pleasure was definitely not worth what I have at stake!

Is there anyone here that has kept such a secret inside that has gone on to a healthy and happy relationship with the same person they cheated on?

Please help!

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