I Just Don't Know..If She Is Cheating

by Confused
(Canada)

In Short

18 months ago my wife changes from a women who was not at all into the bar scene, she liked friends over and entertaining at home and other married, family stuff to having a group of 10 year younger group of friends that party every week end or week day, she went out every week end staying out till 3-4-5 am

endless cell phone calls etc. taking calls till 5 am
this was totaly not her. She talked with a guy on the phone openly in front of me and mentioned his name any time he called.

Bugged me but he was a geek knob with a girl friend so had no concern. In short now some of these people moved away ( I would tell her she had to slow down)partying slowed down etc.


A month ago she went out with friends no problem
next day while she napped i used her phone and found some texts from nite before from a different guy sounded suspicious in the texts ? ( I didn't ever snoop before not my nature) confronted her, just some one that she didn't want to talk to anymore what was I worrying about she says ( just one of the group) next day history was scrubbed (in the nite)

I looked back and found cell records of this number for the last 18 months usually when i wasnot around or she was out or at 3-4 5am when she was home She said she did not realize how much time she had spent this was just a friend etc.

If this was just a friend would you not just offer up " here call him see for yourself and not get sheepish she never offered up a name just that he was a friend from her group ?? any comments