Infidelity in marriage is one of the leading causes of divorces in our country. But what are the real reasons for infidelity?
Depending where you get your information from you may hear so many reasons as to why people cheat in marriage.
Regardless of the reasons, the actions are certainly tearing marriages apart at alarming rates. Over the past few years, there is even a rise in websites promoting affairs and infidelity.
Is there any hope for marriages of future to survive?
I truly want to believe that despite the social media revolution, the core values of marriage can be sustained somehow and someway.
However, if you do find yourself in a situation in which you suspect infidelity, you must know how to protect yourself while putting your suspicions to rest.
Stop the Flirtations – If you notice that your husband or wife if crossing the line with their flirtatious ways, you need to address the issue shortly after so that they know exactly how you feel. Let them know that it is a respect issue and that they would not like it if the shoe was on the other foot.
Narrow Down Their Schedule – If your spouse is cheating, they will need to set aside time blocks in order to be with their lover. Usually this is about a 3-4 hour time period. Make a log of their weekly activities, focusing primarily on the hours that they are away from you.
If they are cheating, you should start to notice a pattern which may indeed be their "time block". You may also start to notice details such as the fact that you can never reach them on their phone during those same times.
Monitor Their Cell Phone - I cannot stress it enough how important a role their cell phone will play in uncovering an affair if indeed they are cheating. This becomes their primary method of communication when they are not with their lover.
Focus on their phone activities but also on things such as how protective they are of their phone.
Bonus Tip: Make up a story in which you need to borrow their cell phone for the day. It could be that you have to drop your phone off at the store for service and you need to make some urgent calls while on the road. Whatever it is, you want to see if they will allow you to use their phone for the entire day. If not, there may be something they are hiding. If you happen to get their phone, use the time to keep them honest by checking their phone logs.
"Infidelity in a marriage is like trying to recover from a shipwreck" - Paloma
The above are just a few tips that you should start employing right away so that you limit your chances of ever facing infidelity in marriage. They may not guarantee that you are never cheated on, but they will give your marriage a better chance of avoiding it.