Intoxicated Cheating - Is it just an excuse?

by Cynthia
(San Diego, CA)

I need advice on "intoxicated cheating".

I have been in a serious relationship for 2 years now. It has been a very difficult two years.

In the very short two year period, my boyfriend who supposedly "loves me" has cheated on me three times.

The first time he cheated, he claimed he was totally wasted and didnt know what he was doing. It was very early in our relationship and I forgave him. I was still trying to cutoff my ties with my ex, so this was one of the reasons why I forgave him.

The second time he cheated, we had gotten into a really big fight. We hadn't talked for about two days. He once again claimed that he thought we were broken up and cheated while being extremely intoxicated.

Recently, someone told me that they saw my boyfriend totally wasted in a club making out with some b*tch. I have had my differences with this person that told me about my boyfriend but somehow I believe what she said.

That night he did come home totally wasted once again. I confronted him about it and he denied everything.

Looking back, the first time he got drunk and cheated should have been a sign for me to run for the hills. I feel like I have invested so much time and I do love him.

I am looking for advice from anyone that has experiences with "intoxicated cheating".

I have told myself that the person who told me about this last "drunk cheating incident" is lying just because I want to give my boyfriend the benefit of the doubt and it also makes it easier for me to sleep at night.

Please Help! Is it possible that my boyfriend thinks that intoxicated cheating is excusable? Could that really be possible?