Is a Hand Job Considered Cheating?

by Crystal
(Iowa)

Is a Hand Job Considered Cheating?

Is a Hand Job Considered Cheating?

Is a hand job considered cheating? My boyfriend and I have been together for more than two years now. We both spoke about our commitment to each other and he promised me that he would never cheat on me.



So last weekend he went out on the town with the guys as he does a few times a month. I never really gave him a hard time because he really doesn’t make it a habit to be out on the streets all the time.


Well, last weekend that all changed and I feel as if I have been betrayed. He came home pissy drunk. He claims to hardly remember the night. He conveniently almost forgot how he got the semen stains on his boxers as well.


After threatening to leave him, he finally confessed to getting a hand job from a stripper. I still don’t know if I should even believe that story.


I am looking for some advice. I have invested a lot of time with him, and he really is a caring, sincere (atleast I thought so..), affectionate man.


The first question I need help with: Is a hand job considered cheating?


I am not sure how I should feel when it comes to that.


Second question: Should I accept his story or dig deeper?


I am really confused, because I feel I am mostly angry about the fact that he is insisting that a hand job is not considered cheating.


Why does he get to make the rules?


I am absolutely positive he would leave me if he found out that I let some guy “play” with my privates no matter how drunk I claimed to be.


Please, please…let me know…is a Hand job Considered Cheating?

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a hand job is not cheating
by: Anonymous

No a hand job is not considered cheating! If it was then doctors do it all the time.

yes, it's cheating
by: Anonymous

Getting sexual pleasure from another person is cheating.

Not Really
by: Anonymous

Not really, a hand job contains no emotional attachment. Other than the fact that you aren't mad that he went to a strip club It's really nothing at all.

mmmm
by: paulo.vero@hotmail.com

It depends.....the handjob was made by a stripper....is something pro....it's just fun...he was drunk....
If the handjob was made by a "friend"..that is cheating....
SALUDOS!!!!!

Rub and Tug
by: Anonymous

It's cheating. He's a dirt bag for thinking it's not big deal.

Whats good for the goose...
by: Gunner

Honey, let him decide if its cheating. Go out with your friends and get" pissy drunk" ,then let a male stripper fingerfu** you, see if he considers it "cheating"...GNR

Must you ask?
by: Anonymous

Yes. Any sexual act outside of your bedroom with another woman is considered cheating, especially since your relationship isn't established as being "open" sexually. What a dumbass he was.

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