Is a Hand Job Considered Cheating?

by Crystal
(Iowa)

Is a hand job considered cheating? My boyfriend and I have been together for more than two years now. We both spoke about our commitment to each other and he promised me that he would never cheat on me.


So last weekend he went out on the town with the guys as he does a few times a month. I never really gave him a hard time because he really doesn’t make it a habit to be out on the streets all the time.


Well, last weekend that all changed and I feel as if I have been betrayed. He came home pissy drunk. He claims to hardly remember the night. He conveniently almost forgot how he got the semen stains on his boxers as well.


After threatening to leave him, he finally confessed to getting a hand job from a stripper. I still don’t know if I should even believe that story.


I am looking for some advice. I have invested a lot of time with him, and he really is a caring, sincere (atleast I thought so..), affectionate man.


The first question I need help with: Is a hand job considered cheating?


I am not sure how I should feel when it comes to that.


Second question: Should I accept his story or dig deeper?


I am really confused, because I feel I am mostly angry about the fact that he is insisting that a hand job is not considered cheating.


Why does he get to make the rules?


I am absolutely positive he would leave me if he found out that I let some guy “play” with my privates no matter how drunk I claimed to be.


Please, please…let me know…is a Hand job Considered Cheating?