Is he cheating via text???

by Nicole
(IL)

My husband and I will be married for 1 year this month. We have a very healthy intimate relationship and we laugh and love often.

We are currently trying to have a baby and he just adopted my first born. 3-4 weeks ago he went out with the guys and met a group of women that they continued to socialize with all night.

He told me briefly about the "female friends" he had met that night. 2 1/2 weeks later I find a text from one of the girls he was out with that night.

He failed to mention that he exchanged phone numbers. The text was of this woman requesting to meet up with my husband for a drink. My husband declined because of his schedule but asked for a rain check. She knew his schedule so it was evident they had been talking.

I confronted my husband in a very passive aggressive way about the women he met that night. He willingly proceeded to tell me that everyone exchanged numbers that evening. He also told me that he had been texting back and forth and that it was "no big deal".

I calmly explained my frustration and requested that in the future if he exchanges a number with someone that he believes would be great to hang out with, I'd love to meet them.

2 days later something is still not sitting right in my gut and I check the phone statement. He and this woman are texting everyday to every other day... several times a day. Most of them are while he is on lunch but there are texts during the evening while I am told he is "playing his iphone".

My husband seems to think it is no big deal and that is why he "failed" mention a few small details. After confronting my husband with the phone print out in hand, he still, very calmly, stated he did not know it was going to hurt me this much and that he would text her one last time to cut off all ties.

I don't feel like anything progressed that evening outside of flirting. The fact that she lives over an hour away leads me to believe they haven't had time to catch up for that drink.

Please tell me your thoughts... Right now I am feeling extremely betrayed. I hate the fact that I don't trust him.