Is he cheating - "...we only have sex maybe 3 times a month"

by Stacy
(North Carolina)

I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years now and this year has been different from all the others.


We haven't shared a passionate kiss since Dec.31. When ever I make an attempt to kiss him like that be backs away.

And we only have sex maybe 3 times a month. And it dosent bother him. I bring these issues up every month and he always says the same thing "I haven't notice".

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Is my husband still cheating
by: Leeann

Me and my husband been together for 11 years married 4. I just found out he was having a affair with another women 2 years ago for 18 months while I was pregnant with his son. He claims it's my fault cause we were always arguing . We use to have sex 3-4 times a week even when he was committing adultery behind my back but it seems like now that there not together so he says, we only have sex 2-3 times a month. No eye contact, no kisses, and he's up all night on his computer. When I go to my room he comes in when he thinks I'm sleep and then get up before I awake.

Hmmm...
by: Anonymous

After being together for so long, things start to mellow. Sex-drives change. Your relationship now shouldn't feel like it did at the beginning.

Some people just aren't as touchy as others; my fiance will go to kiss me sometimes and without even thinking about it I'll lean away. It doesn't mean I don't love him; I just don't want to be touched right then.

If you are this concerned, see if he will go to the doctor with you to see if there's any biological reason.

If you want more sex, maybe it's your turn to spice it up a little bit? You can't just expect it to happen. Surprise him with a sexy outfit, role-playing, etc. Sometimes you get in a slump and need to make more of an effort then at other times.

And remind him that he needs work with you and communicate as well. Both of your hearts need to be in it. If his isn't, then decide if that's alright with you, or if you need more from the relationship. Your needs are important. But so are his. :)

lucky
by: wolf

i wish my wife would have sex with me 3 times a month. Right now it goes sometimes as long as 3 months with no sex.

i know how you feel
by: Anonymous

i guess he is!!

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