Is he cheating

by Jane
(NY)

Hi all, I am going to make this short because I can go on and on forever and I don't want to bore you all.

DH and I have been married 13 years we have 3 children. He is a bartender. For some time now I have been feeling insecure in our relationship.

I call it womans intuition, I just felt that something was going on. I have been monitoring the cell phone bill for the past couple of weeks and here's what I found. 42 text messages in 3 weeks to a young girl he knows from the bar.

When I asked him about it he claims they are just friends and it means nothing. He has her name stored in his contact list under a man's name and all his texts and voicemails are deleted.

He says this is because he was afraid to upset me if I found them, he didn't mean to intentionally deceive me even though that's how it turned out. He claims she texts him to find out what is going on at his bar so she knows if it's worth going over there and that she is dating another bartender friend of his.

In truth 90% of the texts were initiated by him and some were in the middle of the afternoon from home, not from the bar. My gut tells me not to believe a word he says but I am feeling conflicted. What do you all think????