Long story -"I really need some help as I have no one to turn to"

Seven years ago i met a beautiful woman that lives 400 miles from my home. Despite the distance, we began dating.

On our first date so told me she had been having a long affair with a married man. On our second date we went to her company Christmas party.

There i met the owner/boss and he was a complete prick to me. So I pretty knew who she had the affair with.

A couple of months later she went back to him. In July we got back together and she said it was over between them.

She never confirmed the affair was with her boss until after we were engaged 3 years later. We had several talks before we were married about her staying in her town until after her daughter graduated high school.

Moving for me isn't feasible with my business and my daughter. She has worked for this man and his wife for over 20 years and didn't want to quit until my stepdaughter leaves for college.

I'm not really religious but do believe marriage vows are sacred and asked her, how are you going to vow to forsake( to renounce something once cherished to abandon) all others and still work with him every day?

She replied I can't forsake him now but I will. Well the time is getting close and she doesn't want to move or quit her job. I can understand not moving as long as we can spend more time together.

It's really hard to only spend 3 nights a week with your wife, but she has lots of friends and family in her town.

However, I believe her to continue to have a relationship with this man , even if it's not sexual, is wrong! I'm really torn between my love for my wife and my sense of right and wrong, my morality.

For these last few years I have been telling myself I can live with this knowing that it will soon be over.

Now I see no end! My wife has told me she never thought she would be the type of woman that would become an adultress.

I believe that is true and for her to have done it for all those years, to risk her reputation and her livelyhood, she had to really love him.

I just wish she could love me enough to leave him. I really need some help as I have no one to turn to.