Should I tell my friend her husband is having an affair?

by P
(Pompano, FL)

Should I tell my friend her husband is having an affair?

I have been best friends with this person for more than 11 years. She has been married for slightly over 6 years now. I know she really loves her husband and her world would coming crumbling down if she knew that he was cheating on her.

I found he was cheating because we are both in the insurance field and it is a very small circle. I have to say I did not walk in on them having sex nor did I even see them kiss but I see them sneaking off at conferences and I have heard stories that include details from people that do not know that I am friends with his wife.

My question is:

Should I tell my friend her husband is having an affair?

I know how it usually goes when someone tells their friend about their cheating partner. They get mad, break up, then get back to together. This usually leaves the person that told on the outside looking in when they do get back together.

In normal circumstances, I would never even think to tell. I am one to believe that it will eventually come out even without me intervening. However, this is my girl!

I am torn and really have no clue what to do. I must also add that her husband really does treat her very good besides what I know. She never has a bad word to say about him.

I really did like him before I knew what I know!

Is there anything I can do besides being the one to actually tell her about him. It hurts my heart to think my actions could change her life forever. What if he stops and changes his ways? I think if I knew that he would continue his ways or grow closer to this women he is cheating with I would tell my friend without a doubt. But of course there is no way to tell the future.

Please help me. I want to be clear in my decision.

Should I tell my friend her husband is having an affair?