Just what is the 50 Mile Rule?
If you are like the average husband or wife, you probably haven’t heard about, and more than likely don’t know about this secret rule amongst cheaters. But just because you haven’t heard about it, doesn’t mean your relationship isn’t being affected by it.
I first heard about this rule while I was away at college from my “loving” girlfriend who was back home waiting for me (more on that later).
I didn’t understand just what the 50 mile rule was, but my room mate who was also away from his girlfriend was eager to explain it to me. I was so eager to hear; I just couldn’t wait to hear his explanation.
My room mate was the best salesman I ever came across (even though a novice might have sold me on the rule!), he probably sold his teachers on why he should pass his classes. Essentially, the rule goes like this:
“If you are more than 50 miles away from the person you are committed to, then all faithfulness towards that person goes out the window”
What’s even worse about this rule is that, the greater the distance the more powerful that rule becomes. You will be astonished to know how many committed individuals live by this rule. Its almost as if the amount of distance away from your loved one, made the love connection less as strong and easier to cheat.
Just for men? I’m afraid not, because I am so fascinated by cheating in relationships, I have asked, polled, and observed (yeah, just observed!) just as many woman who live by this rule. This seems to be recognized just as much these days by women as it is with the men.
For a man or woman, this “safe” distance away from a loved one, gives the cheating partner a sense of safety to step out on their relationship without the fear or anxiety of getting caught while delivering to them the excitement of a fling with little risks (or so they think!)
So how can you prevent your loved one from enforcing or acting on this rule?
Unfortunately, you can’t control another’s person’s actions if it is their will to do something, but I am a strong believer that the best defense is to do the most in your relationship daily to ensure that your loved one is truly happy. A Happy and settled person is far more prepared to combat and resist the negative forces of this rule.
If you are in a relationship in which you believe your loved one is away exercising this rule, I would recommend monitoring his computer as a way to start. The computer is one of the gateways of communication, and your loved one will probably share their “sexcapades” with someone and you will ready when he does.
Hopefully you do not find your self in this situation, but if you are, good luck in finding out the truth!
You do deserve it!
"Out of sight, out of mind!
Thats why the rule is so strong!"