Why my wife left us for another man?

by Matt

Why my wife left us for another man?

Why my wife left us for another man?

Why my wife left us for another man?



Hi..

My story below and hope you can advise me..

This's very first time doing this and i've been searching Hi..

My story below and hope you can advise me..

This's very first time doing this and i've been searching answers why my wife left us for another man and hope to get advise from reader with experienced.

She was a single mother.. i gave her this and that... i've been working hard on my business to meet her demands and bills..etc. I got 3 kids from her (our marriage) my eldest son is not my biological son.

Right now i proceed the divorce and it take ages for the court hearing. I tried to save the marriage by giving her the chance and willing to forget the past and start a new one. She agreed but still seeing the guy, and doesn't come back home or back around dawn.

She doesn't take care of the kids and my in laws is defending her by keeping the kids. I managed to take my 2nd son with me.. its been almost 2 weeks already. Right now my in law is helping her to avoid my calls and seeing my kids. My in laws also denying her having affairs which i caught her... when i caught her..which is many times, she just smile as me with the looks (So what and now what?)

This's crazy and mental for me. btw. I'm 34 and she is 32. I still love her and gave her the chance to save the marriage and still she lie lie lie lie to me and eventually caught them at his house and went for clubbing by showing off they are couple.

By the i'm a Malaysian (Chinese) In malaysia law.. kids under 12yrs old always follow the mom side. Affair not really apply in court, the court will only look into caring and spending time with the kids. Obviously she doesn't come back home or back around 8 - 10am (more than 16 hours outside) the only proof and witness i have is the parents and our maid... which her parents defending her and wants my kids too.

I'm learning to move one with my son (Joshua) which i requested and i feel sad that i broke the marriage and my son bonding with his brother and sister.

Until now.. i don't see her regret by doing this with her affair and still denied that they are only just friend till now. I went to the guy house but he refused to see me.

For your info... 1st son is 11 (her own son), 2nd son 8, 3rd son 5 and daughter 4yrs old. (3 my own with her). married 8yrs and dating 2 yrs.

Its been going on 2 months already.. and i'm trying so hard to focus with my 3rd son. Also trying so hard to focus my business.

For past few weeks.. i've been followed her where abouts eventually this recent weeks i got tired and i look stupid of doing that. Right now i'm avoding her calls and i don't want to see her or talk to her.. she make me sick and disgrace to my kids of her action.

Do you think she'll regret and also leave this guys.. (my soon to be ex wife is very attractive) or karma?.

She keep lie lie lie lie... and she knows my weakness is the kids.

Please help and advise

Matt

and hope to get advise from reader with experienced.

She was a single mother.. i gave her this and that... i've been working hard on my business to meet her demands and bills..etc. I got 3 kids from her (our marriage) my eldest son is not my biological son.

Right now i proceed the divorce and it take ages for the court hearing. I tried to save the marriage by giving her the chance and willing to forget the past and start a new one. She agreed but still seeing the guy, and doesn't come back home or back around dawn.

She doesn't take care of the kids and my in laws is defending her by keeping the kids. I managed to take my 2nd son with me.. its been almost 2 weeks already. Right now my in law is helping her to avoid my calls and seeing my kids. My in laws also denying her having affairs which i caught her... when i caught her..which is many times, she just smile as me with the looks (So what and now what?)

This's crazy and mental for me. btw. I'm 34 and she is 32. I still love her and gave her the chance to save the marriage and still she lie lie lie lie to me and eventually caught them at his house and went for clubbing by showing off they are couple.

By the i'm a Malaysian (Chinese) In malaysia law.. kids under 12yrs old always follow the mom side. Affair not really apply in court, the court will only look into caring and spending time with the kids. Obviously she doesn't come back home or back around 8 - 10am (more than 16 hours outside) the only proof and witness i have is the parents and our maid... which her parents defending her and wants my kids too.

I'm learning to move one with my son (Joshua) which i requested and i feel sad that i broke the marriage and my son bonding with his brother and sister.

Until now.. i don't see her regret by doing this with her affair and still denied that they are only just friend till now. I went to the guy house but he refused to see me.

For your info... 1st son is 11 (her own son), 2nd son 8, 3rd son 5 and daughter 4yrs old. (3 my own with her). married 8yrs and dating 2 yrs.

Its been going on 2 months already.. and i'm trying so hard to focus with my 3rd son. Also trying so hard to focus my business.

For past few weeks.. i've been followed her where abouts eventually this recent weeks i got tired and i look stupid of doing that. Right now i'm avoding her calls and i don't want to see her or talk to her.. she make me sick and disgrace to my kids of her action.

Do you think she'll regret and also leave this guys.. (my soon to be ex wife is very attractive) or karma?.

She keep lie lie lie lie... and she knows my weakness is the kids.

Please help and advise

Matt

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Losing out.."sooner or later shes going to come to her sences by then it will too late"
by: Anonymous

One doesnt know what they have till they lose it, by then its too late. Mark my words, it will haunt her for the rest of her life, that song and dance can only be played So much, then it comes to screeching halt. Sooner or later shes going to come to her sences by then it will too late. The picture of a happy family with another woman being called mom instead of her will be in place. It will be a painful sad day for her, realising what she lost, what was, what could of been, but is not. A bad reputation will proceed her. never to be assicociated with family values,love or sence of belonging. just a one night stand.

My suggestion - This is just my opinion
by: Anonymous

This is my opinion...If you care about the kids, u just take care of them. forget about her mom, do your job, don't spend the money with her on anything.

Try to pressure her that way, when she feels misery/difficulty she will be sure to find you. Try to ignore her, that the way you can teach her a lesson.

Karma
by: Anonymous

She's got some major bad Karma coming her way, I assure you. My ex-husband and I were awarded shared custody of our children. He was very bitter that I had divorced him, but he was the cheater! He immediately went to work trying to "win over" our small children's affection and loyalty. He told them repeatedly, for years, that I had left him because I was having an affair with the man I married a year and a half after our divorce. After several years he eventually convinced them to move in with him exclusively instead of spending half the week with me.
Here's how Karma came back to bite him: it didn't take long for my kids to realize that he had lied to them, and he admitted it to them when he met his current wife because she wanted my kids to be gone whenever her ex-husband had her kids. They lost so much respect for him for being a liar and for manipulating them. He also tossed them to the side and put all of his time and attention into his new marriage because he had been alone for a long time. He went as far as sending my oldest daughter to live with his mother, because his wife didn't like her (or his mother). He promptly cut off all communication with them and has had no relationship for 5 years with his own, firstborn child or his own mother. He has no friends, both of his kids despise him and his wife, and their marriage is horrible. He will probably never leave her because it's his third marriage and she made sure when they got married to make it so that if he ever left her, she'd financially devastate him. I have a very close relationship with my kids, probably closer than I ever would have had if he wasn't such a horrendous parent. Through it all, I never wished anything bad on him. I didn't need to, obviously, because no one can outrun Karma.

LEAVE HER !!
by: Anonymous

she's no good man.....don't let the beauty keep u from leaving her...there plenty of pretty women out there....
As for the kids, I know its hard to make a descision like that...But in order for u to function like a good father, u need peace in your heart.u don't need this instability, u have a business, therefore u will make it happen for you and your kids...
when the other guy gets tired of here and move on to the next women, Then she will feel your pain, but by that time you are already over her....belive me...KARMA IS A BITCH.....
u are obviously a great man and father.....she's destroying the family ..NOT YOU....keep your head up man and don't let her bring u dowm...DIVORCE unfortunately is part of live...ure not the first or the last..
all the best to you man.
take care.

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