Why Do Affairs Happen?

why do affairs happen

The million dollar question is: Why Do Affairs Happen?

If you are someone that has faced the harsh reality of being cheated on, then you know the value the answer to that question beholds.

Affairs can be devastating and many couples never make it back after all the turmoil caused.

Well, there are many reasons an affair may occur but one of the major factors leading to infidelity is CHANGE.


We always here that change can be good, and it can be! But, change can also bring anxiety that can lead to cheating and infidelity.

Change can mean a whole lot, but many psychologists are saying “Transitional Anxiety” is a leading factor to why partners are straying on their relationship.

What does this mean?

Well, it could mean good old Frank after experiencing the birth of his first child suddenly starts to experience changes that he doesn’t react too well to. I know what you’re thinking.

Isn’t childbirth a good and positive thing?

Its wonderful thing (from what I hear!)

But all the attention that good old Frank is use to is no longer the same. His wife doesn’t think she is doing anything wrong, so she may not notice any negative feedback from Frank.

I mean come on she is only caring for her child, right?Unfortunately life brings the good with the bad, and if we don’t observe what’s going on around us then we leave ourselves open to be blindsided.

With his new child, Frank has new responsibility and expectations that bring stress along with it. Suddenly communication is broken down in the relationship which opens the door wide open for an affair!

We always hear the “It Just Happened!” excuse when it comes to affairs. Well, the truth is that there is usually something much more complicated involved in the relationship when the cheating does occur.

Why Do Affairs Happen?

I know I surely didn’t figure out the million dollar question, but I know that if you can take the time to do the little things that you did when you first fell in love, then your relationship will surely stand a better chance of surviving.

Tips to Preventing an Affair

  • Make time for each other
  • Know when you are wrong, and say it!
  • Let your loved one know you still care. You know it, but don’t take it for granted that still do.
  • Communicate! (Whew! How important is this one.)
  • When all else fails, don’t be afraid to seek the help of a professional counselor. Your relationship is worth the effort.You can’t stop change from occurring, that’s life!


Don’t let change make you forget the little things that made your relationship work.

"I didn't see it coming,
we started out as just friends" - Chris from Arizona

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